After being involved in a series of unfortunate gym encounters I feel the need to bring up indoor climbing etiquette.
I find this post difficult to write because it might come across as selfish so please bear with me as I try to be a clear as possible. It will be long and I don't have any pictures to accompany it.
Personally I have found climbing etiquette to be primarily comprised of common sense and social courtesies and I am a huge proponent of practicing proper etiquette for several reasons; it's the right thing to do, I don't want someone new to the sport to get the wrong impression about climbers or pick up bad habits and everyone will have a better time if we all apply simple customs and manners to both indoor and outdoor situations.
Today was tri-set day. I had the day off from work and Max had a few hours between weddings so we trained. After warming up we spent 30 minutes climbing only on problems V5 (Max did 8 or harder) or harder and then we went into the workout. I won't explain it right now because I don't want to get off track but suffice it to say that it is extremely hard and by the end I wanted to throw up. And I will probably rest for the next two days.
We were in the very middle of one of the "Pull" stations on the campus board when someone asked Max a question. "Hey, have you done 1-5-8?" I couldn't believe it. We were in the middle of a very fast paced work out and we were both breathing heavily and this guy was just chatting away as if nothing was happening. We both kept going and when he didn't get a response he asked again. "Have you ever done 1-5-8?" Finally Max addressed him and said that we were doing something else. He tried to engage Max in conversation again but Max put a stop to that by saying as politely as he could that we were in the middle of a timed work out.
The work out is so hard that we look like we are just falling over and over so maybe he thought that we weren't doing anything important. But in my own opinion, anyone with a shred of social awareness could see that were deeply focused and involved in something that could not afford distraction.
This is not to say that we are complete jerks when we are training. Sometimes the gym gets crowed and today we shared the campus board with another guy and the hang boards with a couple that I will bring up later in the post. More often that not we have to adapt the work out because there are other people around and for the most part it is easy for us to stay out of the way.
I completely understand that some people use the climbing gym as a casual and very social form of exercise, and that is fantastic, I love that people are getting out and trying to be healthy. I also understand that some people are very serious and climb wearing headphones and train without chatting. Personally I don't enjoy wearing headphones but I am definitely not at the gym to hang out. If I can see both sides why can't this guy? Why did he choose that moment to interrupt us? It was very disappointing and I really hope that it doesn't happen again.
A tri-set example taken from BLOCHEAD. This is from last year and it has been severley tweaked and updated to fit our current needs.
Now on to the other encounters.
Lately I have been going to the gym alone due to my work schedule and I have noticed a significant difference in the way I am treated by other members. When I'm with Max no one says anything but when I'm alone guys are always trying to talk to me. This is just an example of how different it is when he's not there and not what my story is about.
Yesterday I went in for a very quick session and I found myself in a room with four or five other climbers, all male, and two of them happened to be working on a problem that I also wanted to try. I ended up finishing the problem and they did not. They were not happy. I had a bit of a work out plan; I was timing my rests and trying specific problems so after I finished that one I moved on to another without really thinking about the two guys until now.
Today during our 30 minute preview I wanted to try another problem, one that is very hard for me, and when I walked into the room the couple from the hangboard were already there. I waited until it was my turn to climb and then I tried the problem. It has several big moves and with my beta I end up cutting my feet a few times so it looks crazier than it really is. I tried the problem once and then I heard "Let's go," behind me and when I turned around I was alone.
Now I am only assuming that I am the reason that they are leaving the room and I could be completely wrong but this has happened to me on a few different occasions. Let me be very, very clear that it is not my intention to empty the room when I climb. Heck, I can't do most gym problems anyway because they are very dynamic and that is a huge weakness of mine.
There was a time when I first started bouldering that I was incredibly embarrassed climbing in front of strong people but now I look back and see how absurd that was. Everyone has to start somewhere and I don't care how strong you are or what grades you climb, it is amazing to finish a project and I am happy for anyone who can share this feeling.
My climbing has come a long way since those days and now I see the gym as a tool that I use to get stronger. I am not there to make people feel ashamed of their own abilities. I just want to get stronger and if I happen to be working the same problem as a group of guys then so be it.
I'll admit I have joked around about being stronger than boys but I'm not being serious or malicious in any way. I really just want to be a better climber and I'm not trying to get in anyone's way or make anyone feel bad. So please, people who walk away because of some tiny little girl doing some stupid gym climb, stop! If you want to get strong just like me then we have something in common and I'm not going to bite you, laugh at you or make fun of you AT ALL. Instead, let's work on it together and have some fun.